We are given so many blessings during our
lifetime, and yes, often it seems, even more than our share of heartaches
as well, but no blessing is as great as when we are blessed to hold close
to our hearts a wee tiny baby who has been given into our care to love
and nurture. The love which they so willingly give to those who have shown
them tenderness and warmth is without reservation and boundless.
They are so vulnerable and trusting and totally dependent upon us.To
betray that trust is surely amongst the greatest sins we can perpetrate.
And yet, every day there are children who are abused, abandoned, or denied
the love which they so desperately need. How can this be ?
Every day we hear horrendous stories of
how children are made to suffer by those who have given them life.
It seems the stories are increasing in numbers with each year that passes.
And yet we do so little to change this. What have we as a society become
? How can we possibly allow this to happen ? We revile the pedophile. We
weep over the child who has been mistreated by a stranger. But what are
we doing to safeguard the child who lives with terror within the walls
of their own home ? Society must find the answers. If the parent
of that unfortunate child has become so depraved that they are capable
of destroying their own flesh and blood and no one has paid attention then
somewhere we as a society have failed. We have become so self involved
that we can't make the time to see what is happening under our very noses.
Whether because we are busy, or because we simply don't want to become
involved in what could be a messy situation, we turn away and refuse
to see. And another child is alone to face God only knows what heartbreak
How can any human with an ounce of human
decency look into the eyes of a tiny child and see the fear and desolation
their wanton destruction of that child's trust has created and do
nothing? What kind of creature can take a precious baby and destroy their
soul ? For to create only fear and to deny love to a child does destroy
the very core of that child. Even if they are taken from those who have
been so heartless and cruel that scar will never totally be erased. It
is burned into that child's psyche and will affect how they relate to others
throughout their lifetime. No amount of understanding and love will ever
replace the love that child so desperately sought from the one in whom
they first placed their trust. There will always be a dark empty
space in their heart and their soul created by those who first denied
them that which was theirs by birthright.
A greater sin ? I think not.
I do exclude from such condemnation
those poor hapless mothers who are so ill that they are no longer
capable of cognitive thought and yet are allowed to remain the custodian
of their children when there should be recognition of the fact
by more rational family members that to leave children in their care
even briefly, places them in unspeakable danger. Those mothers are condemned
by society and punished for their actions but what action is taken to hold
to account those who were so irresponsible or misguided and thoughtless
that they would leave tiny children to the mercies of an otherwise loving
mother who has lost her way and is incapable of recognizing reality.
Surely the signs were there. Post Partum depression or other mental illness
does send out signals to those who care enough to see. Such a condition
does not occur overnight and the indications the mother was in trouble
should have been noted and addressed. The children are not the only victims
when tragedy strikes. That unfortunate mother is a victim as well.
Babies do not ask for life. When
we choose to give them life that decision comes with a commitment
to provide love, safety, and guidance to that child until such time as
they become self sufficient and have reached maturity. And that commitment
does not only rest with the mother. The father shares that responsibility
equally. To those who are thinking.. but it wasn't my choice, it was a
mistake, I can only ask .. if you didn't wish to be a parent then why would
you allow that child to be born. There were alternatives available to you
and if your beliefs do not allow for that decision why then did you
not provide that child with a a family which would love them as every child
deserves ? There are women who would give their lives to love a child and
who, for whatever reason, are unable to fulfil that dream. How could you
be so selfish and heartless as to deprive your child of a loving environment
in which to grow up? It would cost you nothing and at the very least
it would give your baby a chance at a start in life which is their right.
I accept there are those who were never
intended to be parents and there is no crime in feeling that way or in
making that decision. You are however obliged to safeguard against conception
if that is the case. Failure to do so does not provide an excuse for giving
birth and then punishing the child because you failed to act responsibly.
That child had no part in making the decision not to exercise due care
to prevent such an occurrence. That one rests squarely on your shoulders.
I recognize that my words sound judgmental
and they are. A baby is utterly defenseless and helpless. A precious wee
angel with no preconceived character traits or flaws. A blank slate if
you will. What you write on that slate determines the adult they will become.
From the very moment they draw their first breath they are learning and
absorbing knowledge and feelings which will be a part of them always. If
you are incapable of writing anything other than obscenities on that slate
then you have failed as a human being. Even an animal is better than that.
Won't you please give that baby a chance
and do what even you know is best for that child ? If you cannot find any
love in your heart for your own flesh and blood won't you please
allow someone else to open their heart to that wee angel ? There is a loving
home waiting for them. It is only up to you to open the door. You
will not only be doing the right thing for that baby , you will be giving
a precious gift to a family who will cherish that child as they so
rightly deserve. I am begging you, won't you please do what is right
A Crib of Stone
Lying upon a marble slab his little body
oh, so cold
What causes him to lie in death, if only
his story could be told
He is not the first, regretfully not the
No child can be so bad in the short life
that is past.
Dependent upon another for what he ate
Brutally mistreated, his tiny body could
take no more
Christ intervenes when parents forget
Mistreating a child of His, whose stories
canít be told.
I look upon this baby, even in death its
Marred by cruel hands, the recipient of
many hateful blows
He never stood a chance In his short little
Filled with such horror, all he knew was
Oh God, how can anyone mistreat a little
They give so much love in such a little
Precious little babies, they cannot make
it all alone
Neglect and abuse bring them to this slab
of marble stone.
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August 16th 2005