It is not always possible to maintain that attitude but it's habit forming you know. If you are accustomed to facing life with optimism when problems arise your automatic pilot takes over and before you know it the pain or heart ache at least becomes bearable and the strength required seems to be there. It is definitely a fact as someone once said," worry never ever robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy."

As we grow older we come to realize I think that perhaps children have the secret. Each new day is an adventure when you are young. Children don't worry about what is past or what the future may bring. They live for today.  Each new experience is an adventure and each new day is greeted eagerly with optimism and enthusiasm.

 If only we could retain that  attitude as we mature and face the challenges that  life brings to all of us. Unfortunately, that is easier said that done. Regrets connected to the past, apprehension about what may face us in days ahead, and even fear of the present, are all with us as we face life. How we deal with those circumstances is directly related to our attitude. The pessimist always looks for, and expects the dark side. The optimist expects the best and  faces the challenges head on.

 I am not so thick headed that I don't know this is sometimes almost impossible in light of events which may occur through no fault of our own but please note ... I did say 'almost'. I really do believe that life doesn't hand us one single thing with which we do not have the strength to deal. We just have to learn how to draw on that strength. And goodness knows, it is a lesson learned which will serve us well on many occasions.

One thing I know for certain ... giving up  is not an option. A new day comes with an unblemished twenty four hours. How you act and how you react to events during those hours will dictate what kind of day it has been when it ends. Isn't it a lot better idea to be able to look back at those hours knowing you have done the very best you could with no regrets for actions taken or not taken, nor words uttered without thought or pause to allow one's brain to control one's tongue ? How many times have careless thoughtless words hurt those we care for ? Wouldn't it be a lot easier in the long run to not have to look back on that day with regret ? Perhaps with resignation, but at the very least an acceptance that although it wasn't the best of days  it was one in which you tried ?

 Think about it. One less regret to add to that bag of regrets we all carry with us through life. In my book that's a definite plus ! Who the heck needs to make that bag any heavier than it already is ? You know what ? Do that often enough and before you know it that darn bag starts to feel a whole heck of a lot lighter. I guarantee it.

 And ... the best part ... there's another new day just around the corner during which you can leave someone feeling  happier or more at peace,  during which you can deal with the problem you couldn't handle today, perhaps a problem which will seem less onerous with a fresh viewpoint.

Isn't it worth at the very least, a try ? 

 Yep, I know some of you may be saying " what the heck does she know about it ? Bet she never faced what I am facing." Don't bet your life savings on that one.  I have faced, face now, and will face in the future, the same kinds  of problems everyone faces  I promise you. I just prefer to have the optimism I had as a child before I knew what life had in store for me. It most assuredly makes for happier moments which, when added up, will definitely mean a relatively happy life.